I’m not sharing or recommending any blogging tips but the things I currently do to blog stress free.
You may know me as someone active on social media, blogging groups, and on my blog sites as if I have all the time to spend online, but I’m actually a busy person offline. I am a full time student of BS in Nutrition and Dietetics (at the university), completing my BA in Islamic Studies (online and self paced), freelance designing, maintaining the sites of my clients, selling hosting and domain, working for Hijabi Mag (we will launch our first e-magazine by the end of the year)… and living alone (So, I have no company to do my household chores and things at home).
Blogging serves not just as a means of expressing myself and helping others but also as a relaxing activity. However, lately as I receive too much stress from the university, home and freelancing instead of getting relief from blogging, it gives me more stress.
When I started blogging, it was all about sharing and enjoying. I could blog daily because I don’t have rules, and deadlines. When I decided to expand my blogging experience by building a platform, brand and audience, I set standards in my mind. It came to the point that, although I still enjoy blogging it seemed like it has become a daily chore. Every article had to be well-planned, well-organized, and well-written. It became less authentic, and I noticed that my blog posts sound not me anymore.
I realized that I don’t want such setting, I don’t want to blog that spurs from pressure, to deprive myself of things I love, and to neglect those more important duties in my life. I wanted to blog stress free. There are responsibilities, yes. There are visions, yes. There are specific goals, yes. There are audience to keep in mind, yes. There are deadlines, yes. But pressuring myself in blogging is a NO. How do I make it?
Being “SMART” in setting goals
I had this thought of blogging at least once a day, updating my Instagram, Tumblr, Twitter, Google plus, Facebook pages daily. I realized that it’s not my duty to update that much and that often. If I have something to share, then I will share it. If I don’t have something to share, then I will not force myself to share something just for the sake of updating often.
I have plans to expand my hosting and domain business. But, that may take place at the end of this year or early next year in shaa Allah. For NOW, I’m focused on being a student dietitian first.
When setting goals, I remind myself to be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bounded).
Freeing myself from all those competition thoughts and blog jealousy
There is actually no need for a competition in the blogging world for each one of us has his unique stories and ideas to blog about. Each one of us can make his own place online. If we keep on looking how to be like others, we will never be successful. But, if we embrace our abilities and our own ideas, we will surely be excelling in our own craft.
Building not my name but my relationship with others
As we help others in building themselves, they help us in improving ourselves. I believe I should focus on becoming a better individual and not by becoming famous for name and fame will easily be forgotten. How I help others and how I contribute in their life is what will last long.
Saying NO and LATER
I used to say yes and accept any offer but I have to be honest with myself and to reject offers that would distract me from my top priorities. It’s really okay to reject an offer or to be honest that you may not do the task now, but willing to do it later.
Reminding myself of my priorities every time I forget those
In blogging world, everyone can be so competitive and excellent in their craft. When you are getting exposures, positive feedback and opportunities, may overwhelm you making you easily lose your focus, until you forget what your real priorities are. So, I set a vision board inside my room where I write my priorities in order. So, every time I wake up or when things become so stressful.. there’s something that would remind me of my priorities.
Spiritual growth, personal development, family, studies, freelancing, and blogging.
Obviously, spiritual growth, personal development, and family will never be crossed out from my list. When it comes to studies, freelancing and blogging, studies is my top priority. I can’t give up blogging and freelancing but I should remind myself of what requires more of my attention NOW and that is my studies. I’m on the process of monetizing my blog, increasing my blog traffic and audience but I’m not rushing. I can not give up freelance jobs too because I have to pay my monthly bills as a seller of hosting and domain. I don’t want to pull out money from the allowance my dad is giving me when paying my bills. I want my business to run solely by my own earnings.
By thinking of my priorities, it will not make me stressed when I skip a week not blogging at all.
Blogging less yet wisely
I may not be able to blog often especially in the coming months when I will have my thesis, and then internship. So I’m sharing blog posts that are timeless so that even when I’m offline for days due to my thesis and internship, I am confident that the posts will be continuously read.
These are what I currently do to blog stress free, but it doesn’t mean I’m sticking to this kind of set up for long time. I want to expand my blogging and freelancing experience, but my studies need more of my time at the moment.
We can always do the things we enjoy, we just have to learn how to organize our things, how to prioritize and how to manage stress.