I started blogging to express my thoughts, to communicate and to just explore my creativity. But just like anybody else, at some point I felt giving up cause I felt like no one is interested to listen to whatever I have to say, no one is waiting for my next blog post, no one cares to know what’s happening with my life lately, whether or not I’m fine, if I managed to lose weight, to overcome my fears, low self esteem and anxiety or if I am able to start believing in my abilities.
There are several times when I believed in my ideas, spent hours or even days to put those ideas into a blog and then when it’s published – there are metrics, stats and such that show how few people, or none, viewed and how abundant don’t. Times like that make me feel like my voice isn’t worth listening or my ideas aren’t worth giving attention. And as a blogger who invested time, effort and money into blogging – sometimes I feel like it’s all waste.
What makes it worst is when people close to me, family and friends, think I’m really wasting my life onto something that is not worth it. They don’t understand what I do, how I earn online, how blogging helped my business, how it helped me discover my potentials, how it helped me as an individual- sometimes they make me feel like it’s all really a waste.
I felt like no one understands why I had to invest for a domain and hosting, why I had to buy premium theme, why I had to change my brand names several times, why my blog posts took hours to complete. Sometimes I wanted someone to talk to who understand me and not who just nods and say “okay that’s cool” but with facial reaction saying I’m weird.
Sometimes blogging is a competition not with other bloggers but with my own negative thoughts. It’s normal and I know many experience it too. But despite all these, I keep on blogging. I keep on doing what I feel like worth it. I’m not giving up for readers ignoring me, I keep on doing this for few readers who find my blog worth reading, who keep on recommending my blog posts to others, who keep on messaging me privately for help because they believe in me, who keep on requesting me to blog on specific topics because they believe I could, who keep on reading my blog posts silently. I keep on blogging for myself – who finds blogging an outlet of my thoughts, ideas and learning, who finds blogging a tool of communication, who finds blogging a friend.
I’ve been blogging for a long time, but my blogs don’t get traffic unlike those few years old blog that have thousands of views daily and thousands of followers. I know exactly why and that’s another long story.
Though at first, I was totally clueless of what I was doing and what good blogging would bring me still I didn’t give up. And, despite the discouragements I faced that tried to stop me, I keep on blogging.
The changes and transformation of blogging and bloggers pressured many bloggers to be more than just a blogger – some become entrepreneurs, educators, creatives, designers, YouTube stars, Instagram famous. I admit at some point, I felt the need to be more than just a blogger as well. But, I learnt to chuck off those thoughts and to listen to what I really want to do and to just let myself grow without imitating others or trying hard to achieve something I am not.
So how not to give up when you’re working hard on what you love yet it seems like no one cares at all?
Have a greater purpose. Instead of aiming for likes, traffic, comments and following – aim for quality and timeless blog posts. You may not get your blog post go viral for days, having a high quality blog posts that are timeless will be visited even after a year or two.
Some people actually cares. Believe that there are people who actually reads your blog and who expect something new from you every time they visit your blog. Know that metrics don’t always show how many loyal readers you have. Not all page views are your loyal readers and not all your loyal readers visit your blog often. Some loyal readers follow you on your social media accounts, they’ll visit your blog right when you share an update about your blog on your social media accounts. On the other hand, some page views are just viewing and not actually reading, some even just visited your blog by mistake. So, don’t ever use metrics to measure how many people actually cares. Also, keep your intention clean which is to help others and to only bring good to others.
Don’t please people. If you are blogging to please people, to get their attention, to be appreciated by them then you’re doing it wrong. You can never please everyone. While some may get interested with your blog posts, some won’t. And, that’s okay.
Live your life. Do what you want to do, don’t neglect your duties, have a talk with friends, and spend time with your family. The more you spend your time offline, the more you get an inspiration to blog about something.