When I was a kid, I used to play with my fantasy that I’m living alone. Growing up into a teen, the idea of living alone would excite me. In college, I didn’t know I would have the opportunity to live alone. Although, my parents were nervous, they respected my decision and my reasons behind choosing to live alone. I am thankful of the trust they gave me.
At the age of 16, I lived alone in a country away from my family. I stayed in an apartment alone and because it was my first time, every night was filled with fears, loneliness, and homesickness. At the age of 19, I moved to another city and again preferred to stay alone but this time in a condominium unit – no room mate or trusted friends next door.
Though living alone has been difficult, it’s been a great thing for me that I’m very thankful at for it has become a training for me to become better and independent.
Through the years of living alone, I gathered 5 amazing things that happened to me, and may happen to you as well.
You become closer to God
Although, I am free to do anything, the fact that God is watching me all the time, makes me avoid to commit anything that would displease Him. I respect the trust my parents have given me, but I fear God more. I set limits to myself in accordance to my faith, curfew and do’s and dont’s. In times I needed a company I know God has been there to guide, support, protect me. In times, that I don’t know what to do next, how to fix my stuff, how to be brave, I believe He’s been watching me. As I become more independent from people, I become dependent on Him because He is the One I know that has been accompanying me to survive the daily struggles of living, of studying, and of achieving my dreams. I practiced patience – believing that He won’t leave me alone and trusting His plans knowing that everything He decreed for me is the best for me.
You gain more strength
There have been several times that my patience, faith and capabilities were tested. In times of difficulties and loss, I feel weak and down but instead of giving up I persevere to become strong. I don’t escape from my weaknesses and fears because if I do, I’d end up losing more, so I face those fears and replace it with my strengths.
You discover more of your abilities
When you spend your extra time at home alone by trying amazing things, reading, and acquiring new skills instead of sitting on the couch watching the same movie all the time, you discover more of your potential, you discover more of your abilities, you discover that there are more things you could actually do. Spending my idle time in enhancing my passion in designing websites, coding, and writing made me learn more about my skills and talents, and made me realize that by practicing, I could improve.
I acquired amazing skills from exploring and trained myself to be disciplined. Living alone has been training for me to do my own chores too – washing clothes, cooking, cleaning, and grocery, not depending on anyone.
You don’t have a choice but to be brave
There are times when I felt fearful, but I couldn’t let those digest me so I had to face those fears and to woman up by being brave enough to protect myself. I have to make myself feel secured knowing that I can rely on myself.
You realize the importance of family
Although I’m still financially dependent, I try my best not to depend on my family when it comes to solving my own problems, struggles and satisfying my material wants, still I’m amazed at how they make me feel supported by them at all times. I realize that family is the best gift that God has given me that although we are away from each other, they don’t fail to show me their unconditional love. Every time I have my time to spend my vacation off from university back to my family, I make sure that I cherish every moment for they are truly missed by me. No distance would change the bond we have as a family.